The Association of Playing Hard-to-get Dating Strategies and Different Attachment Styles

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The Association of Playing Hard-to-get Dating Strategies and Different Attachment Styles

Renyou Cao 1* Rui Huang 2
  • 1 CJID Changjun School, Changsha city, 410002 China    
  • 2 Steinhardt New York University, New York, USA    
  • *corresponding author 2722973107@qq.com
LNEP Vol.6
ISSN (Print): 2753-7056
ISSN (Online): 2753-7048
ISBN (Print): 978-1-915371-37-9
ISBN (Online): 978-1-915371-38-6

Abstract

In modern society, dating is a standard method in a close relationship. Our research question is whether there is an association between attachment styles and the dating strategies such as playing hard-to-get and easy-to-get. By chatting with women who play different dating strategies, participants who are heterosexual males will then complete the ECR questionnaire and self-reported survey. This study is important and novel because we focused on online attachment style and dating strategies. Our expected results will be high anxious participants would score higher to HtG confederate and respond to higher social desirability.

Keywords:

hard-to-get, attachment style, easy-to-get, interest, dating strategy

Cao,R.;Huang,R. (2023). The Association of Playing Hard-to-get Dating Strategies and Different Attachment Styles. Lecture Notes in Education Psychology and Public Media,6,665-672.
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[2]. Fisher, H. E., Aron, A., Mashek, D., Li, H., & Brown, L. L. (2002). Defining the brain systems of lust, romantic attraction, and attachment. Archives of sexual behavior, 31(5), 413-419.

[3]. Hidi, S., & Renninger, K. A. (2006). The four-phase model of interest development. Educational psychologist, 41(2), 111-127.

[4]. LeFebvre, L. E. (2018). Swiping me offff my feet: Explicating relationship initiation on Tinder. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 35, 1205–1229.

[5]. Walster, E., Walster, G. W., Piliavin, J., & Schmidt, L. (1973). “Playing hard-to-get”: Understanding an elusive phenomenon. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 26, 113–121.

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[8]. Meyer, B., & Pilkonis, P. A. (2001). Attachment style. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, Training, 38(4), 466.

[9]. Murray, S. L., Holmes, J. G., & Collins, N. L. (2006). Optimizing assurance: The risk regulation system in relationships. Psychological Bulletin, 132, 641–666.

[10]. Murray, S. L., Holmes, J. G., Griffin, D. W., & Derrick, J. L. (2015). The equilibrium model of relationship maintenance. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 108, 93–113.

[11]. Brennan, K. A., Clark, C. L., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Self-report measurement of adult attachment: An integrative overview. In J. A. Simpson, & W. S. Rholes (Eds.). Attachment theory and close relationships (pp. 46–76). New York: Guilford Press.

[12]. Davis, D., Shaver, P. R., & Vernon, M. L. (2004). Attachment style and subjective motivations for sex. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 30, 1076–1090.

[13]. Shaver, P. R., & Hazan, C. (1988). A biased overview of the study of love. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 5, 473–501.

[14]. Impett, E. A., Gordon, A. M., & Strachman, A. (2008). Attachment and daily sexual goals: A study of dating couples. Personal Relationships, 15, 365–390.

[15]. Collins, N. L., & Read, S. J. (1990). Adult attachment, working models, and relationship quality in dating couples. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 58, 644–663.


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Cao,R.;Huang,R. (2023). The Association of Playing Hard-to-get Dating Strategies and Different Attachment Styles. Lecture Notes in Education Psychology and Public Media,6,665-672.

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References

[1]. Luo, S., & Zhang, G. (2009). What leads to romantic attraction: Similarity, reciprocity, security, or beauty? Evidence from a speed‐dating study. Journal of personality, 77(4), 933-964.

[2]. Fisher, H. E., Aron, A., Mashek, D., Li, H., & Brown, L. L. (2002). Defining the brain systems of lust, romantic attraction, and attachment. Archives of sexual behavior, 31(5), 413-419.

[3]. Hidi, S., & Renninger, K. A. (2006). The four-phase model of interest development. Educational psychologist, 41(2), 111-127.

[4]. LeFebvre, L. E. (2018). Swiping me offff my feet: Explicating relationship initiation on Tinder. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 35, 1205–1229.

[5]. Walster, E., Walster, G. W., Piliavin, J., & Schmidt, L. (1973). “Playing hard-to-get”: Understanding an elusive phenomenon. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 26, 113–121.

[6]. Gerard, H. B., & Mathewson, G. C. (1966). The effects of severity of initiation on liking for a group: A replication. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 2(3), 278-287.

[7]. Melges, F. T., & Bowlby, J. (1969). Types of hopelessness in psychopathological process. Archives of general psychiatry, 20(6), 690-699.

[8]. Meyer, B., & Pilkonis, P. A. (2001). Attachment style. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, Training, 38(4), 466.

[9]. Murray, S. L., Holmes, J. G., & Collins, N. L. (2006). Optimizing assurance: The risk regulation system in relationships. Psychological Bulletin, 132, 641–666.

[10]. Murray, S. L., Holmes, J. G., Griffin, D. W., & Derrick, J. L. (2015). The equilibrium model of relationship maintenance. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 108, 93–113.

[11]. Brennan, K. A., Clark, C. L., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Self-report measurement of adult attachment: An integrative overview. In J. A. Simpson, & W. S. Rholes (Eds.). Attachment theory and close relationships (pp. 46–76). New York: Guilford Press.

[12]. Davis, D., Shaver, P. R., & Vernon, M. L. (2004). Attachment style and subjective motivations for sex. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 30, 1076–1090.

[13]. Shaver, P. R., & Hazan, C. (1988). A biased overview of the study of love. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 5, 473–501.

[14]. Impett, E. A., Gordon, A. M., & Strachman, A. (2008). Attachment and daily sexual goals: A study of dating couples. Personal Relationships, 15, 365–390.

[15]. Collins, N. L., & Read, S. J. (1990). Adult attachment, working models, and relationship quality in dating couples. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 58, 644–663.